Question 1

Is a parenting class required for divorce?

Accepted Answer

In most states, yes — a 4–6 hour court-approved co-parenting class ($25–$75, often online) is required before any divorce or custody order involving minor children is finalized. Check your state court's approved provider list. The class is gender-neutral and focuses on protecting kids from conflict.

Question 2

What's mediation and do I have to do it?

Accepted Answer

Mediation is a confidential negotiation with a neutral third party to agree on a parenting plan. Most states require at least one mediation session before contested custody hearings. It's faster, cheaper, and less traumatic than litigation. If there's domestic violence history, you can request to opt out or have separate-room mediation.

Question 3

Which co-parenting app should I use?

Accepted Answer

OurFamilyWizard, Talking Parents, and 2Houses are accepted as evidence in court in most US jurisdictions. They provide tamper-proof message logs, shared calendars, expense tracking, and a tone-monitoring feature. If your ex is abusive or harassing, these apps create a documented record judges will read.

Question 4

How do I co-parent with someone who was abusive?

Accepted Answer

Use parallel parenting instead of cooperative co-parenting — minimize contact, use a court-monitored app for all communication, exchange the child at a neutral location or police station, and stick strictly to the written parenting plan. Document everything. Many states allow supervised exchanges through Safe Exchange programs at no cost.

University of Iowa — Children and Families of Iowa

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